From the author's note on this article , a first hand account of the realities of anal sex. Anal sex is always painful the first few times; as the passive partner, you are inevitably tense, nervous, and anxious.
Health issues for gay men and men who have sex with men - Mayo Clinic
Mythbusting: What Gay Men Really Do In Bed
In the popular discussion of gay sexuality, anal sex looms large.
I'm a gay man who doesn't like anal sex
Gay men are constantly referring to and defining themselves as tops or bottoms.
Guys on the 'Side': Looking Beyond Gay Tops and Bottoms
The reality is that for many gay men, anal sex can be a real source of anxiety. In fact to some degree, there still exists anti-gay sentiment in many parts of the United States.